Competitiveness and Women

In the article “How To Be Friends With Another Women” it pointed out the competitiveness between women. How we are viewing each other as the competition rather than supporters. Its not just one thing women are in competition for though, its everything from families, work, kids, and every other imaginable thing. A constant competition is exhausting and isn't beneficial to anybody. Competition only leads to comparisons between one another which once again aren't beneficial. Women need to be supporting of each other. The phrase that we need to build building each other up, not tearing each other down, it's true we need to be there and help other women. Competition only helps limit the success of women as a whole and if we want progress we need all hands on deck to help. Competition just isn't conducive to that it a winner take all mentality, and 1 person isn't going to be able to fix this problem only.

To go back and talk about the dangers of comparing ourselves to each other, which often is a result of competition. Comparing yourself to another person generally never ends well either you are tearing yourself down or you are tearing the other person down. This is dangerous because you can put yourself in a serious downward spiral if you compare yourself to everyone. If you do this you will always find strengths of theirs which are weaknesses of your own and cause yourself unnecessary pain. It is much more beneficial to support each other and understand that not every women is the competition even though I think we have been taught to think like that. If we can rewrite our daily habits then our chances of bettering ourselves and our place in society would have a substantial increase.

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  1. Chelsea MannDecember 8, 2017 at 6:02 PM

    I agree with this idea completely and I think many other women would as well. Constantly having to compete with others in every aspect is exhausting mentally, physically, and emotionally. And what is it exactly that we are all competing for? There is no prize for best hair, best shoes, or anything of that nature, therefore all of the competition that women face against one another is unnecessary and must be stopped. When all women start to realize that the only person that they have to make happy is themselves, we will all be in a much better place.

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