Building Each Other Up

In Gay's essay, "How to be Friends with Another Woman" she talks about the competitiveness between women. Almost anything is fair game when it comes to tearing one another down behind each other's backs. But why is this necessary? We're all in the same position when it comes down to it. In order to rise above our oppressors, we must stop judging other women so harshly, and start building them up. We are all guilty of passing judgement over other women who are dressed differently than us, or like the same guy as us. Everything has become such a competition, that we are unable to realize the benefits of helping one another become the best version of themselves.

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  1. Shanaya ShahDecember 14, 2017 at 1:35 PM

    I think you bring up some awesome points! In society today we have this perception that women are seen to have to “catch a man with her good looks and pleasing manner.” However we fail to acknowledge the misogyny that we as women perpetuate. Brands like Skinny Girl and self help books are the reason why we have this culture of women telling other women on how they can be the ideal. These sell under the superficial blanket of feminism, deceiving women into thinking that being in the norm of women equates to standing up to men. It's this backwards mentality that in order to break norms that were previously set by men, we should conform to them.

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